5 Tips for Healthy Communication

Here are five tips for healthy communication in marriage:

Have an Open Mind

Whenever you are having issues in your marriage it is important for each spouse to have an open mind when it comes to the feelings of the other. You may not agree with everything they say or feel, but at least be open to hearing them out and understanding where these feelings and thoughts are stemming from.

Don’t Interrupt

Oftentimes when people are having a discussion they interrupt each other. This may be because they disagree with what the other is saying or they want to comment on what is being said. It is good that you have thoughts and want to discuss, but it is rude to interrupt. Wait until the other person is done speaking, then comment.

Listen

One of the main issues couples have when trying to express themselves is that neither spouse is listening to the other. Problems are not going to get resolved if no one is listening to what these problems are. If necessary, come up with a system that allows both of you to take turns speaking, so you are sure the other is listening to everything you have to say.

Watch Your Tone

If you sound angry when speaking to your spouse, they may retaliate by speaking in the same tone. It is important that you both are speaking to each other in a respectful manner and tone. There is no need to yell or scream. Not only may this cause the argument to escalate, but it also doesn’t allow either spouse to be heard.

Stay On Topic

It is fairly easy to bring up past arguments when a new one is occurring, but this is something couples should avoid. Bringing up old issues will only add to the tension and anger that may already be experienced by both parties. If the problem has been resolved, there is no need to bring it up in future arguments.

When couples work together to get through their issues, they often find that they can overcome every hurdle they have experienced. It may not be easy at first and many may be reluctant to go to marriage counseling, but when they are done, they will realize it may have been one of the best decisions they could have made. Contact the Center for Marriage & Family Counseling at  (214) 250-7808. You can also schedule an appointment online here.